My name is Sara. I live in Portland, Oregon.
I'm a poet and a musician. I'm the sole constant member of The Dykings.
I like: non-fiction, poetry, indie rock (whatever that means), quotes by artists I admire about their creative process and their work, talking about my own creative process, public art, talking about what it means to make art as a non-straight non-male artist, trying to make great things.
“I love the word practice. How do you get to Carnegie Hall? You practice. How do you get to the Carnegie Hall of your soul, of your life, how do you get to the concert hall where you make best music inside yourself? You practice. How do you practice? You change your behavior. Every day. It’s very difficult, and you constantly are falling down and you have to constantly try to change it again.”
— Mandy Patinkin on Charlie Rose last night. (via jsmooth995)
“Because the fact is, the people you were lying to, the colleagues you said you didn’t respect in the first place, had figured you out ages ago. Despite what you thought of them, they weren’t dumb. And they couldn’t have cared less about what you were lying about. However, they were puzzled. Why is she lying, they whispered, Why is she saying such dumb archaic stuff? They tolerated you though, with the sweet sad sympathy of people who hoped they’d never be victim to the same self-delusion as you. They pretended they did not see through you. They felt embarrassment for you. They felt the pity felt for fools. You’d always wondered what they’d say about you. What they were saying was, Poor dear, who does she think she’s kidding, who’s she lying for? The person you were lying for was you.”
Rebecca Brown (1992-10-09T04:00:00+00:00). The Terrible Girls: A Novel in Stories (Kindle Locations 181-187). City Lights Books. Kindle Edition. (buy on Emily Books)
“[Blue is the Warmest Color’s] overwhelmingly positive reception reminded me of Brokeback Mountain’s debut, when the queers watched quietly as the critics stumbled over themselves to praise the performances of two straight actors succeeding in the “difficulty” of a gay role. Queerness as portrayed by straight people, as envisioned by straight people and directed by straight people, is Oscar bait. Brokeback Mountain isn’t an example of gay cinema anymore than Blue is the Warmest Color is an example of lesbian cinema, and I’m sorry if that comes as a shock to you.”
Yesterday Margaux told me a story that her mother often tells about when she was a baby. It took Margaux a long time to talk, and everyone thought she was a little dumb. Margaux’s mother had a friend who was a bit messed up and really into self-help books and all sorts of self-improvement tapes. One day, she had been telling Margaux’s mother about a technique in which, whatever problem you came across in your life, you were just supposed to throw up your hands and say, Who cares? That night, as Margaux’s parents and her slightly older sister were sitting around the dinner table and Margaux was in her high chair, her sister spilled her milk and the glass broke all across the table. Her mother started yelling, and her sister started crying. Then, from over in the high chair, they heard little Margaux going, Who cares?
I’m sorry, but I’m really glad she’s my best friend. If I had known, when I was a baby, that in America there was a baby who was throwing up her hands and saying, first words out of her mouth, Who cares? and that one day she’d be my best friend, I would have relaxed for the next twenty-three years, not a single care in the world.
Heti, Sheila (2012-06-19). How Should a Person Be?: A Novel from Life (p. 8). Macmillan. Kindle Edition.
(I’m not rereading this, I was just remembering this particular part today.)
In two weeks I’m going into the studio for the first half of the record. I am excited. I am nervous. I’m trying to write a couple more songs before I get there. WE SHALL SEE.
I’ve been continuing my self-cultural-anthropology and going back to various books/tv shows/musicians that have been important to me throughout my life, but that I have abandoned because they weren’t “cool.” This basically led to a four hour period this weekend where I was weeping while listening to Gordon Lightfoot and Stan Rogers. Also, I’ve been rewatching the L Word, which we can all agree is a terrible show but was a big part of my development as a gay lady. (Can I mention the sheer unbelievability of Jenny getting a story in “Best American Short Stories”? SHE IS A TERRIBLE WRITER.)
It’s fall and it’s beautiful. I moved into my own house this summer and so I’m becoming acquainted with a whole new set of trees. There’s this Japanese Maple in my backyard that’s just starting to change and it’s blowing my mind.
I’ve been feeling homesick lately, even though I love Portland. Not homesick for Chicago, but for Michigan, and the dumb snowy winters and the lakes and the woods and the corn. I feel jealous of the people who were able to stay. I’m mourning the time I thought I’d be able to move back.